Born a Crime // Trevor Noah

“Being chosen is the greatest gift you can give to another human being.”

We tell people to follow their dreams, but you can only dream of what you can imagine, and, depending on where you come from, your imagination can be quite limited.

Relationships are built in the silences. You spend time with people, you observe them and interact with them, and you come to know them.

We spend so much time being afraid of failure, afraid of rejection. But regret is the thing we should fear most. Failure is an answer. Rejection is an answer. Regret is an eternal question you will never have the answer to. “What if…” “If only…” “I wonder what would have…” You will never, never know, and it will haunt you for the rest of your days. 

Comfort can be dangerous. Comfort provides a floor but also a ceiling.

Nelson Mandela once said, ‚If you talk to a man in a language he understands, that goes to his head. If you talk to him in his language, that goes to his heart.‘ He was so right. When you make the effort to speak someone else’s language, even if it’s just basic phrases here and there, you are saying to them, ‚I understand that you have a culture and identity that exists beyond me. I see you as a human being.

Trevor, remember a man is not determined by how much he earns. You can still be a man of the house and earn less than your woman. Being a man is not what you have, it’s who you are. Being more of a man doesn’t mean your woman has to be less than you.

Hustling is to work what surfing the Internet is to reading. If you add up how much you read in a year on the Internet—tweets, Facebook posts, lists—you’ve read the equivalent of a shit ton of books, but in fact you’ve read no books in a year.

People don’t want to be rich. They want to be able to choose. The richer you are, the more choices you have. That is the freedom of money.

“Learn from your past and be better because of your past,” she would say, “but don’t cry about your past. Life is full of pain. Let the pain sharpen you, but don’t hold on to it. Don’t be bitter.”